Reconnect with your body desire intimacy
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SEX THERAPYKELLY MATTIELLO
"Your sexuality is a garden — once born in a little pot and grown in its own unique way, maybe into old trees, wildflowers, or overgrown green spaces. Sex therapy can help explore what’s there, gently clear what no longer feels good, and make space for a landscape that feels more true to you."
— ADAPTED FROM E. NAGOSKI
Sex is like cooking a meal: an indulgent exploration of ingredients that never come together quite the same way twice. The real pleasure lies in the deliciously messy creative process, not in striving for a perfect final result.
If no one ever told you this, it’s understandable that sex may have felt overwhelming or difficult to talk about. Sex therapy offers a space to ease that pressure and approach intimacy with more clarity, confidence, and openness.
In our work together, we focus on understanding your experiences, unpacking the stories and expectations that may be shaping your relationship with sex, and creating room for curiosity, comfort, and change. Whether you’re navigating something new or revisiting something long-standing, sessions are paced in a way that honours your needs and supports meaningful exploration.
This may include looking at concerns such as:
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Sex Therapy
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Changes in desire are common. Whether you’re feeling a loss of libido, experiencing a high level of desire, or noticing a difference in desire between you and your partner. These experiences can sometimes create challenges in intimacy and communication.
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Vaginal pain (vaginismus, dyspareunia, vulvodinia) and genital or pelvic pain (penile, testicular, or pelvic floor discomfort) can affect intimacy and confidence. Together, we can explore factors and work toward restoring comfort and ease in intimacy.
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Orgasmic difficulties refer to any experience in which reaching orgasm or ejaculation feels challenging. Exploring these experiences with care can help you reconnect with pleasure and feel more at ease in your body.
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Experiencing difficulties with getting or keeping an erection, or ejaculation - whether early or delayed - can affect confidence. These experiences are common, and together we can explore what’s happening so you can feel more relaxed and connected.
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For some individuals, sexual confidence can feel like a real burden. Body image concerns, past trauma, and medical treatments or cancer can all significantly affect intimacy. Having a safe space to talk about these experiences can make a meaningful difference on self-esteem.
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Difficulties related to gender, sexual, and relationship diversity can sometimes bring feelings of confusion, isolation, or uncertainty. You may be navigating questions around sex, sexuality, relationships, or intimacy, and seeking a space to explore these experiences.
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As we grow older, intimacy and sexual expression can change in meaningful ways. You might notice shifts in desire, arousal, or comfort, or find yourself exploring new forms of connection. With the right support, it’s possible to embrace these changes and cultivate a fulfilling and confident intimate life at any age.
Services
Individual Sex Therapy
£65
Individual sex therapy offers a safe, confidential space in a one-to-one setting to explore sexual concerns and enhance wellbeing. Sessions last 50 minutes.
Couple & Relationships Sex Therapy
£75
Couple and Relationship Sex Therapy offers a supportive space for partners and non-monogamous relationships to explore sexual and relational concerns together. Sessions last 50 minutes.
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It’s a good question!
In psychosexual therapy, the first session provides an important opportunity for me to understand what has brought you here and to consider together whether psychosexual therapy may be helpful for you.
Subsequent sessions focus on deepening our understanding of your difficulty. I may ask questions to help identify the different factors contributing to what you’re experiencing, so we can decide on the most supportive approach moving forward.
Psychosexual therapy is a holistic process. This means we may explore past experiences, relationships or communication patterns, and—where appropriate—gentle exercises, either individually or with your partner(s), to help expand your toolkit.
Most importantly, this is your journey, and there is no single, identical path for everyone. The work we do together is tailored to you and what feels right for your wellbeing.
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About me
I am an experienced and registered psychosexual therapist with a background spanning private practice and NHS psychosexual services.
My approach is grounded in person-centred values and mindfulness-based therapy, creating a warm, empathetic space for you to reconnect with both body and mind.
My style is collaborative, gentle, and anchored in self-kindness, body awareness, and playful exploration. Therapy with me invites creativity, authenticity, and a deeper understanding of your sexual self.
What’s especially important to me is adopting a mindful, inclusive approach that celebrates gender, sexual, and relationship diversity (GSRD), including LGBTQIA+ identities, kink preferences, and non-monogamous relationship styles. With this foundation, you will feel respected and cared for as we explore your experiences at a pace that feels right for you.
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Continuing MSc in Psychosexual Therapy – University of Lancashire
Post Graduate Diploma in Psychosexual Therapy – University of Lancashire
Higher National Certificate in Counselling Skills & Practice – Edinburgh College
Other expertise:
Working with Survivors of Domestic Abuse
Mental Health Support Worker
Membership Organisations:
Registered Member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT)
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Contact
Making the first step can feel scary; the good thing is, there’s no commitment if you’re not sure yet! You’re welcome to book a free 15 minutes online consultation HERE or simply ask any questions you may have. I’m here to help and look forward to hearing from you.
Just a quick note: I aim to reply within 3 days, but sometimes emails can sneak into your spam folder. If you’re not sure you’ve received a reply, please check there or feel free to resend your message. I want to make sure your questions are seen and answered.